Maybe it’s her style, maybe her self-centered and inexpressible life. She’s a successful newspaper columnist and later a freelance vogue writer. Carrie Bradshaw sure was a fictional character, but how could you not love her? The way she viewed life, the way she viewed love. She loved love and that’s what I loved about her the most. To others she might have been a self-righteous, Manhattan snob, but to me she was and always will be an icon. Most women might say that Carrie Bradshaw gave false hope but I don’t agree because Carrie had a million reasons to give up on love, on herself. It’s not like she was invincible or anything but she never stopped giving everything she had, she was strong and was more than capable of doing whatever the hell she wanted.

1)She’s looking for ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love. We all go through false alarms and dead ends before finding ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love. After years of “Mr. Big” John James Preston making continuous appearances in Carrie’s life ,they discover their “sparkle.”

2) Plentiful supply to choose from yet hard to pin down as ‘role models.’ I chose Carrie Bradshaw, someone who challenges perceptions of femininity and goes against norms. From fashion to politics – women have been leaving their mark. So what made me choose a fictional character over an influential figure in history? Don’t get me wrong, there have been many great women who made a positive impact in the world. Like Malala Yousafazai, an activist for female education or Helen Keller, the first deaf-blind person to not only earn a degree in arts but a political activist and lecturer. However, Carrie Bradshaw is always vying for women and men to have equal rights and opportunities. She’s just like all of us, sometimes confused, sometimes lost. But she always manages to find her way.

3) Carrie is the type of character who is the cherry on top of what it means to be a women in modern times. We all could relate to her in some way.

4) Ms. Bradshaw has taught us to love. We carry so much love in our hearts, so we should love ourselves FIRST. How can you truly love someone else, when you don’t love yourself FIRST?

5 )Don’t settle for anything less than butterflies. There is a difference in needing, wanting and loving someone. You should be with someone who makes your knees weak, someone who makes you feel electrons running through your body. Love should feel like an internal sense of happiness. You miss them when you’re not with them, your miserable when you don’t remember their voice. With them you can be you.

6)Carrie Bradshaw made me realize that I shouldn’t have to sacrifice who I am because someone has a problem with it. You should never have to sacrifice your dreams and desires for someone else’s happiness.

7)Never let one thing you don’t have affect all the things you do have. I know this is a weird logic but let’s just say you have ten great things in life, however you want eleven things. Just because you don’t get that eleventh thing doesn’t mean that you shrink to a nine. You’re still a solid ten.

I’m not able to afford my own Upper East apartment. If I got mugged, I wouldn’t care about my sandals. I’m not a Carrie. However, one thing we have in common is that we run free, because we aren’t meant to be tamed.